TapFish iPod app: "You can express your feelings once every 6 hours"

I downloaded a fish app, TapFish, yesterday for my iPod, and I tried to give my fishes some love, but I was met with the following statement: “You can express your feelings once every 6 hours”. So I clicked “OK” – since it was the only thing to click.. But it was not ok. I wanted to love my fish! So after being irritated for about 3 seconds, I thought about how ridiculous that statement was.

I understand that with “real” things, the over-showing of emotion, or trying to express yourself at the “wrong” time is not a good look. This will either result in you being labelled as clingy or crazy – no one wants that!! But there is a right time.. Just like how you don’t pick a fight or break up with someone on their birthday, or Valentines day – this is the WRONG time!

I  had a professor in university who started the first class of the semester off by saying “if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, DO NOT break up with them around the end of the semester, break up with them now. If you are looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend, DO NOT do so at the end of the semester, go out and do it now”. His argument was that starting and ending relationships at the end of the term was a bad idea, as you have more important things to worry about – like reading Wuthering Heights for the 18th time! He was right.. somewhat. But, is there ever a perfect time to deal with the difficult stuff in life?

And when is the “right” time to express ones’ feelings? For your digital fish, it is apparently only once every 6 hours. But TapFish is just an app, what about in real life?

I’m one of those people who despise talking about their feelings. Even if I’m mad, I won’t talk about it. I have to wallow alone in silence, and then after a while, I’m fine. The tenants finally moved into my house over the weekend, so I can finally relax. But the last few weeks were really tough. Going through things and deciding what to keep was probably the most difficult part.

My mum kept a lot of family bits and pieces for me to go through – including a lot of my father’s things, which were, at times, quite hard to look at. There were diaries, photographs, sketches, paintings, beautiful books. As much as I’d love to keep everything, sometimes, it’s just not feasible. Thankfully, I was able to keep a lot of stuff, and managed to get through with a minimal number of nervous breakdowns. It took a lot of trying to calm myself down to stop myself from snapping at everyone. Thankfully, the people around me understood that it’s not easy, and did stop to hear me out when I griped about things.

I think arguments and disagreements are necessary and healthy sometimes.. I like slamming the odd door and throwing stuff But saying that, we have to try to remember to be receptive to what others are saying – even though sometimes it would feel better to throw something at them or smack them in the head. Remember that you have to find the right moment, open your ear holes, and listen!! Patience is key! x

I think it’s time to give my digital fish some love!

It makes me think that they did it on purpose. It’s such an obvious mistake. But why would they print something like that on the cover of their magazine? People aren’t going to buy their magazine because their photoshopping peope messed up. It’s not like this will get them any good publicity. It  makes them look like they don’t care. If it was a tiny picture on page 60, then ok – maybe it wouldn’t be noticed.. But this is the cover picture! It’s like the MOST important page!!! What if they accidentaly airbrushed one of her eyebrows off?! Or even worse.. What if they left that tiny bit ofhip in the picture!!!! OH NO!!! Can you imagine?!?!

Demi Moore is beautiful. At 47, she has an envyable body, beautiful skin, husband half her age, the list goes on.

According to spokespeople from W Magazine, the retouching was done in-house and nothing “unusual or out of the ordinary” was done. Unless Demi Moore is deformed in the hip area, I think these people are lying. They deleted a piece of her hip!!! How is that not unusual?!

Is there not an editor at  W Magazine whose job it is to check for these things before their magazine goes to print? Anyone who spent more than 5 seconds looking at this picture could see that something is clearly wrong. It’s like the Ralph Lauren ads where the model’s waist was digitally minimized to the width of her head.

I have huge issues with retouching pictures, and I honesty think that it is lying. It’s glorified lying that distorts people’s perception of what is truly beautiful. It also diminishes the our understanding of beauty when we see a real and not retouched picture. The colours just aren’t bright enough, the contrast just isn’t strong enough, the skin/eyes are the wrong colour, there’s too much arm fat, etc.. It’s getting a little ridiculous.

It makes me think that they did it on purpose. I mean, it’s such an obvious mistake. But why would they print something like that on the cover of their magazine? It can’t be to boost their sales. People aren’t going to buy their magazine because their photoshopping people messed up. It’s not like this will get them any good publicity. It  makes them look like they don’t care. If it was a tiny picture on page 60, then ok – maybe it wouldn’t be noticed.. But this is the cover picture! It’s like the MOST important page!!! What if they accidentally airbrushed one of her eyebrows off?! Or even worse.. What if they left that tiny bit of hip in the picture!!!! OH NO!!! Can you imagine?!?!